Last week I saw my chance: it was finally snowing! Me and Taria-ann decided to go on a small adventure and go to a beautiful nature area in the south of the Netherlands. In the middle of nowhere there is this cute small cottage/restaurant called ‘t Hijgend Hert: a perfect spot for a snowy saturday! It didn’t go as smooth as we planned though…
You might be reading the title of this blog and think to yourself: “Easy for you to talk, your body is amazing, of course you love it!”. But there is more than meets the eye. Any model will agree with me: while going to an endless amount of castings we all developed serious self esteem issues at some point.
There is always something wrong with us: too short, too tall, too fat, too skinny, too young, too old… one time I even got send out of a casting because the instep of my foot was too high… not joking. I most definitely have some very insecure years behind me, but since last year I finally learned how to embrace myself for how I am.
What’s “wrong” with me you might wonder? The length of my legs is out of proportion compared to my upper body and they are also the problem zone where my fat goes if I eat too much unhealthy food… perfect combination don’t you think? As a model, I was always too short (2cm to be exact) and my ass was too big (ironically enough, also 2cm), which the casting directors and agencies gladly reminded me of every time they saw me.
Teenage girls should never have to hear all these negative comments about their bodies. I’ve met so many girls that started to become obsessed with their bodies and even developed eating disorders, it’s disturbing. So yes, maybe I have an “amazing” body in the eyes of other people, but everyone has their own insecurities and problems! In the end, we all deal with the same question: how will I learn to love my body?
1. I realized that everyone has a specific body type and that it’s impossible to get another body type, no matter how hard you work out.
Of course, you can lose weight and tone your muscles, but always following the lines of your body type. In my Amsterdam vlog I talk about this with Model Workout coach Jeroen Krak.
2. I realized that photoshop creates an idealistic image of bodies in the media, which isn’t realistic most of the time.
I’ve seen my body photoshopped so many times that I used to get disappointed in myself when I look in the mirror. However, now I get disappointed whenever I see ads in magazines. I learned to love myself because I realized I wasn’t the one showing the wrong body image: the media are. Currently I am a big supporter of a new (hopefully upcoming) body trend: fit & healthy.
3. I realized that in the end looks are nothing compared to skills.
Sure, good looks are nice, but how far are they going to get you? Since I started my own company and developed my skills people have been treating me with much more respect than they ever did.
4. I realized that everyone has their own problems
5. I realized it’s better to be more curvy and happy than skinny and stressed
Sure, I can be super-duper skinny. If I work out 7 days a week and follow a strict diet. I realized I prefer to enjoy good food and some extra relax time, instead of working my ass off and obsessing about my weight 24/7.
Are you insecure about your body? Or do you have any other tips on embracing yourself?
Lots of Love,
P.s. Photocredits to the amazing photographer Ron de Wildt! :)
London was an amazing experience, I wish to be back soon! From shooting beautiful lingerie, to hanging out with my long lost roommate… London had all the feels <3
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Lots of Love,
In September and October, I traveled all across Europe: from Madrid to Amsterdam. It was an amazing adventure that I wouldn’t want to have missed for the world! During my Europe Tour, I saw the most beautiful places, met great people, and learned more than I could have imagined. Here are 10 Travel Tips I learned!
It always makes me so happy to hear… “I always love your photos! How do you do it?“. I can already tell you now: it takes more than a pretty face to get cool pictures: it’s all about a good concept and the right execution. Last week in Barcelona I organized an amazing fashion editorial, and I will take you guys through the process step by step! *Warning* This is quite a read because the organisation of this shoot was a rollercoaster.
You might be surprised about the title of this blogpost, I mean, if there is a place filled with creativity it is the actual internet. Pinterest, Tumblr, Instagram, and lots of other websites are made for people to share their creative ideas and products. So why would you say that the internet kills your creativity?
The first stop of Who is that Blonde on Tour is finally online! Last month I was in Madrid for the fashion week, and I have to say that I was really surprised by the quality of the event.
Lots of Love,
Last week I turned 24
Usually after 21 people start resenting growing older – myself included – but this year I felt differently. You see, one year ago I decided to change my life around and take a leap of faith: starting my own company. Did I study about business? Nope. Did I ever have a blog before? Not really. Did I know what I was doing? Most definitely not. Would I change my decision if I could? Never. Did I learn some of the most valuable life lessons ever? More than I could’ve imagined.
I think my 23rd Life-year might have been one of the craziest rollercoaster rides I have ever had in my life. I’ve been broke most of the time, I had a burnout and managed to get out of it, I moved to another country to live together with the love of my life and had to start from zero, I made new friends and had to say goodbye to others, I was constantly struggling to balance my blog with university and model work, and I am pretty sure I am still going through a quarter-life crisis… I think I could keep going on forever, but I will spare you with further details.
“Why do you call your blog a company? Isn’t that just a hobby?” To answer you shortly? No, no it’s not. I personally underestimated the amount of work that comes with a blog – or let me rephrase that – a good blog with interesting content, nice pictures and social media community (amongst others). So this year I also learned: how to photoshop, how Instagram & Snapchat work, how to develop a personal style, what is Google Analytics, how to do my own administration, how to navigate myself in unknown places, what are the best ways to collaborate with brands, and so on. Maybe these things might not be essential life lessons on their own, but look at the bigger picture: I learned how to be an indepenent grown-up. Did all of these things go well immediately? Hahaha, I think you know the answer to that one yourself.
*verrryyy grown-up… as you can clearly see
But that’s the thing: if I wouldn’t have taken this leap of faith and risk everything to follow my passion, it might have taken me years to learn all of these things. What are those sayings again? “If your Dreams don’t scare you they aren’t big enough“, or “If you think you are in control you are not going fast enough“? If #SpiritQuotes would be a thing, I am pretty sure these would be mine… true life lessons right there. Bottom line is: instead of being afraid of failure, you should be thankful for it and embrace it as much as you can. I know it is really easy to feel down if you fail, but the trick is to look at it positively and ask yourself: what did I learn from this mistake? How can I improve myself with this new information? Admit that failures happen in life (we are all human after all), and consider it an opportunity to do better next time. BOOM, instead of shrinking you are growing. You’re welcome.
Last but not least, I realized that because of my blog I have been on much more adventures in this 1 year than I had in the past 3 years. At first it started off as an ‘I need to visit pretty places to make good pictures for my blog‘ kinda thing. But soon enough I simply became addicted to discovering new places and experiences, I learned how to love adventure. I started hiking in the mountains of Catalonia to find places of which I never even realized that they were there. I traveled to more than 7 countries this year, and I tasted more types of weird foods than ever before (which is impressive since I am a total foodie). I experimented with countless unknown beauty products, hair styles, fashion trends, workout tips and recipies than I ever had experimented with in my whole LIFE. It might sound silly to you, or perhaps you totally understand what I am talking about. But ever since I decided to take this leap of faith I feel SO alive! I feel like I am not wasting a single day, because each day is a new adventure with new things to learn and discover. Good things. Bad things. The Whole Shebang.
Pfiew what a relief, I feel like I’ve been wanting to talk about this whole ‘life lessons’ thing for a while already but I didn’t really know how. I wonder if any of you guys think I am crazy or relate to me in any kind of way… Let me know?
Lots of Love,
Hola Madrid Fashion Week!
After multiple Barcelona Fashion Week’s it was time to make a move to the capital of Spain to see what the fashion world looks like over there. And even though Barcelona is in my heart, I have to be honest…. Madrid was pretty awesome. All the big Spanish designers show there, and the event is perfectly organized. I was invited as international press because I write reports for The Fashion Insider, which meant I got to be part of special press dinners and excursions, lucky me!